Healing the Girl You Used to Be
“He healeth the broken in heart, and bindeth up their wounds.”
— Psalm 147:3 (KJV)
There’s a moment in every woman’s life when she realizes she isn’t just healing the woman she is today — she’s healing the girl she used to be. The girl who swallowed pain because she had no one to talk to. The girl who believed lies because those lies were all she heard. The girl who learned survival before she ever learned safety. Healing the girl you used to be is not easy, but it’s necessary — because she still shows up in the woman you are today.
I know that journey well.
Growing up, I carried words that sank deep into my spirit: “You’re worthless… no one cares… no one loves you.” These are a few of the seeds of lies that Satan planted in my mind when I was about 11 years old.
Seeds that shaped how I saw myself.
Seeds that made me settle.
Seeds that made me feel invisible.
Seeds that made me crave connection, even when it came from the wrong people.
I didn’t have the space to say, “This hurt me.”
So I just grew up with it.
And for years, that girl lived inside me — wounded, quiet, and unseen.
God Saw What No One Else Did
Even when you grow up, the younger version of you doesn’t disappear.
She hides in your triggers, your fears, your insecurities, your choices.
She may look grown on the outside, but she’s still waiting for someone to tell her the truth.
What I love about God is this:
He doesn’t ignore the child you used to be — He goes back for her.
While I was trying to hold adulthood together, God was dealing with the little girl inside me.
The one who felt overlooked.
The one who learned to stay quiet.
The one who thought she had to be strong to be loved.
He didn’t rush me.
He didn’t shame me.
He began to uproot the lies one by one.
Your Story Might Look Different… But the Healing Is the Same
Maybe your childhood wounds didn’t look like mine, but you had your own version of silence.
Like when you learned early on to pretend you were fine.
The many times you pushed through the hurt because slowing down felt dangerous.
Maybe you were taught to hold everything in.
The only way I found true healing and deliverance was through prayer and the Word of God.
I discovered that God feels the exact opposite of the lies I believed and lived by. God sees the heart that Satan tried to turn cold. He found the soul that Satan wanted to remain lost. He gathered all my broken pieces… neglect, rejection, feeling forgotten, unloved, and my low self-esteem. Ever so gently, He removed the lies that tried to destroy me and replaced them with His perfect love, acceptance, peace, joy, care, and healing power.
To the little girl that is within you, allow her to learn the attributes and the ways of the most loving, caring, faithful father… God.
Let God reach back into those early wounds. Touching the parts that never had a chance to heal. Then let Him rewrite the lies that shaped your identity and replace them with His truths.
Because when He heals the girl you used to be, the woman you’re becoming in Christ finally gets to breathe.
Prayer
Lord, thank You for seeing every version of me — the child, the teenager, the woman I am today. Heal the wounds I grew up with. Uproot the lies that shaped my identity. Restore the innocence, the joy, and the confidence the enemy tried to steal from my younger self. Give me the courage to let You love every part of me. Teach me who I am. I want to see myself the way you see me. In Jesus’ name, amen.
Reflect & Respond
- What part of your childhood still affects how you see yourself today?
- What lie did God begin healing when you came to Him?
- Spend time with God and His Word. Sit quietly in His presence and allow Him to shower you in the love that only He can give.
